Coping With the Loss of An Infant

Hello and goodbye in the same breath

Grace Marie Porter

Drawing by Daddy.

This page has been brewing in my head and my heart for a long time.  It wasn’t long after we lost our baby, Grace, that Ben and I knew that God wanted to use us to help others who are dealing with this sort of tragedy.  We had no idea then where it would lead, but as the years have gone by, we have been shocked to discover the number of people who find themselves in this place.  The bottom line is this: if you have held your child in your arms having said hello and goodbye in the same breath, this page is for you.  No one knows what to say to you.  You need to talk about it, but no one can possibly understand…. unless they’ve been there too.
(read our story)

grace_3                 Grace's Feet

So, I carry in my phone the names, dates, addresses and details of dozens of other parents that I now know that have been where we were.  I hope that this page will become a place of hope, comfort and healing.  I’m not a counselor, psychologist or therapist.  I have no professional training from which I write.  I’ve just been there.  I hope that I can turn my own pain into something of service and glory to God by helping others cope through the loss of their child.  Some of what I write comes just from my own thoughts, feelings and opinions – which may or may not resound with you.  But I will also share here the comfort and hope that I have in the promises of God, and those words are nothing less than truth.

I encourage you to subscribe to this page if you are someone who has lost a child at birth. If you choose to share your story with me,  I will try to help support you through some of the hardest times.  I hope that this site will become a place that you can turn on those rough days when you feel everyone else has forgotten.  I hope it can also be helpful to those who have had early pregnancy miscarriages, lost an older child, or just want to understand better a friend who has been in this place.

5 thoughts on “Coping With the Loss of An Infant

  1. Please pray for Stephanie & Seth price as they say goodbye go their two week old son, Luke today. Thank you

    • Thank you, Georgiana, for letting us know. My family and I, as well as many who follow this blog, will absolutely be lifting them up in prayer and I have added their sweet Luke to The Wall of Remembrance. Please send them here if you think they might find any comfort, and let them know that they are loved and not alone. ❤

  2. I did not have the chance for the reality of hello-good bye. In my first marriage we struggled to get pregnant, only to be gut punched with two miscarriages. Only one made it to the actual blood test and confirmation. Here I am, 30+ yrs later still battling with the imprints and emotions that have remained. I would just like to encourage others…that they are not walking alone. Thank you for the work you are doing for The Kingdom coming. Bless you, and all whom you love.

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