Awareness

When Mother’s Day Is Hard

Mother’s Day is a wonderful day to celebrate something so precious and often taken for granted.  It’s a wonderful day.  Except when it isn’t.  There are so many for whom this holiday brings more pain than joy.  Maybe you’re one of them.

Maybe your mom is no longer with you and this day reminds you just how terribly you miss her.

Maybe you’ve lost a baby.  If you have other children it is a day full of “We love you, Mom!”, hugs and handmade crafts that make you smile. It’s great. But if you’re like me, there is a little part of your heart that aches for the missing hug, crayon-drawn card, and pasta necklace. If you don’t have other children, I imagine the hurt is far more prevalent, making you feel as if others don’t really think of you as a mom – that this day isn’t yours.

You are.

It is.

Or maybe you’re the woman who has desperately wanted motherhood and it hasn’t happened for you.  Maybe you know with certainty that it won’t happen for you.  Hearing everyone talk about how blessed they are to be a mom is just more than you can take.  You’re happy for them, but can’t help but wonder why this blessing is withheld from you.

If you’re one of those hurting this Mother’s Day, I’m saying a special prayer for you – and hoping to raise some sensitivity among those who have not felt the pain that can tarnish such as day.

If you’re a friend or family member of someone who has reason to struggle with Mother’s Day, please see them this weekend. Send a card, give a hug, buy them flowers, take them out to lunch.  The effort will mean the world to them.